7 Ways to Spot your Shadow Self and Find Acceptance

The term ‘shadow’ was coined by Swiss psychologist Carl Jung to explain our unconscious. The self that is hidden from our own view. It’s not the self we show consciously to our friends, family, or even our social media followers. 

However, while our shadow self isn’t always nice, it doesn’t mean it’s bad. It’s just the side of ourselves that will always need to be worked on. By working on our shadow self, we can learn and grow as a person. To love your shadow is to love every part of you. 

Everyone has a shadow self. Here are seven ways to find and identify your shadow self. 

Finding Your Shadow Self 

Check Your 12th House 

In your birth chart, the 12th house rules over the subconscious mind, so whatever sign rules that house, is the sign of your shadow. For example, if Virgo rules your 12th house, your shadow self might act as your inner critic.

List The Qualities You Don’t Like in Others

Grab a piece of paper, and compile a list of qualities you are annoyed by in others. Write them all down. We are often annoyed by certain traits in others because we unconsciously see them in ourselves, so this list is indicative of your shadow self. 

Doing a Tarot Reading 

When in doubt, ask the cards. Doing a Tarot reading can help you uncover the shadow parts of yourself. Use the major arcana, and do a card pull with the intent of finding your shadow. Whatever card you pull represents your shadow. You can also go to a Tarot reader who could give you shadow self-reading. 

Analyzing Your First Reactions 

They say that your first reactions represent your true self, but, actually, your first reactions represent your shadow self. Take notice of how you react when you are hurt, angry, or have a random mean thought. That’s your shadow coming out. 

Journaling 

Journaling can be a great way to understand your shadow self. Freewriting can help you “talk” to your shadow self through the pen. Let the words flow through you; don’t force it.  

Shadow Self Portrait 

Or if you’re more visual, you can draw your shadow self. Get out your favourite art supplies, meditate, and draw. Don’t focus on drawing any particular thing or even what it looks likes. Just listen to your intuition, and let your hand do the rest. 

Invite Your Shadow Self In

Sometimes the best way to deal with your shadow is to greet it. Welcome your shadow in by meditating, opening your arms up, and saying, “I welcome my shadow self. I invite you to teach me about myself.”

Accepting Your Shadow Self 

Accepting your shadow self sounds easy, but it’s much harder in practice. We have to be ready to look, embrace, and even love our shadow, which means loving the parts of ourselves that we don’t like. Doing shadow work can help us love and understand ourselves on a deeper level. Remember, your shadow isn’t a monster; they actually have a lot to teach you. 

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